I recently overheard this conversation where the girl asked her friend whether they had found a match for her sister. And the guy replied, "Not yet, but we'll marry her off this year."
He said this in a very casual tone as if there was nothing strange about deciding when you want to marry a girl before you've found a groom. It doesn't matter whether you find the suitable match in March or November you'll still marry her off in December. Kind of sounds like it doesn't matter who she is married to. Getting her married off is more important than whether the guy is good enough or Whether the girl wants to marry so soon or the guy you think she should marry.
And if you don't marry her off to the first OKish guy who comes along the fact that you already have a time frame set you up for disappointment, so you crib about how she is not married yet and all the things that could be wrong with the girl or how picky the guy and his parents or the girl are being.
Of course, it doesn't matter what the people actually getting married think. What matters is that whether or not your parents are happy is dependent on whether you are married. To anybody at all. It doesn't matter if you are not happy with the decision of marriage, what matters is that they are happy and what other people think. After all you owe it to your parents for giving you life and raising you. There goes the love you thought it was about. Seems like they want you to pay them back for all of it. And not by doing what you want to do for them because you love them but by signing off all your life to them or someone else.
"If you looved me you would marry who I waaant you to (even if it makes you unhappyyyy). To hell with everything else you can or want to do for me because you can never do as much as I did for you."