No. I haven't gone crazy. I am extremely serious. You should be a robot. At least if you actually believe all the stuff that modern culture tells you.
You cry too much.
You shouldn't get angry.
He doesn't mean it.
It was just a joke.
You are overreacting.
All basically telling you that you shouldn't be feeling what you are feeling because this is not the situation where you should feel it. In fact you shouldn't feel it at all because if it happened in the past then you should just forget it. And if it's in the present then you shouldn't make a scene.
If you actually follow all the stuff we supposedly should not do or feel, you will essentially never have to use your own brain. Ever. You shouldn't think (thoughts that are different). You shouldn't feel (anything other than happy). You shouldn't do things that are different. If you do all that you have a pretty tight life plan ready for you so that you will never need to think because you should be doing what other people do, think and feel.
You shouldn't feel sad, angry or maybe too excited (this one is mostly self-inflicted). You should just be happy. Think about the last time you got angry or sad and wanted to talk to someone. They probably told you, you shouldn't feel that! You're not allowed to feel sad. Because when you do people don't know how to deal with that. True they have a few emergency procedures ready but if they have to use them, they are dealing with a flawed robot. And they know these procedures won't help because it didn't work on them. It just made them angry or even more sad.
There are a few allowances for both the genders. Men are allowed to feel happy, angry and make fun of people but never ask for help even if you really do need it, and god forbid you ever cry or show that you are less than a perfectly operating machine you'd be assigned the gender of a woman because they are inherently flawed (not much we can do about women). The women are tolerated for crying, feeling sad or getting angry and should feel grateful people put up with the bugs in their software. You should just be feeling happy. So you pretend to be a working robot lest you be thrown into the rubbish bin because they can never really manage to repair these faulty things somehow. Nobody knows why.
Sarcasm aside, I hear people say that men are given less choice about how to feel but I think it's is not as clear as that. Because they are both shamed for showing emotions in different ways. The men are made fun of and the women are shamed by statements like you are overreacting etc.
It's a result of the fact that we live in a patriarchy and whatever men are supposed to do is thought as better and hence something to strive towards. So when women do feel we are shamed or at best tolerated. Men on the other hand are made to feel emasculated for feeling sad, needing help. Called a woman. Which illustrates my point that we still to a certain extent think and that women are inherently flawed and need to be tolerated because there is nothing we can do about it. But this idea is not helping anyone. This is certainly not a conscious decision made by anyone but it harms both genders.
We claim to be proud of accumulating knowledge and learning facts but we forget that that knowledge also taught us about evolution. And emotions are also part of evolution. Something that influences our actions to such an extent cannot be useless or harmful because then we would probably not be here. No matter how much we try we can’t completely suppress them or how they influence our behaviour. It's impossible unless you are Sheldon (in which case I am still right but it's hard to convince you because you think you are always right :P). Maybe we should think about the idea that emotions are actually a good source for making decisions and actually might help us do what is right for us had we listened. And that the only reason they do harm us is because we live in a nonsensical culture.
In fact research shows that intuition and emotions actually help people make better decisions in comparison to analysing and overthinking about the decisions. I won't mention the sources though because we should use our own emotions as a guide rather than relying on research. I am a hypocrite, I know. (Just google if you want to, I can't be bothered about finding them again, besides, I knew I was right before I looked for them). :P
Also the fact that I felt the need to even look for the studies shows the extent to I used to distrust my own emotions and feared the demand for proof. I was not going to add the paragraph about the studies but it's a good example of the extent to which we distrust ourselves. And I know I am not the only person who feels this way even if not everyone demands scientific proof. Even I don't demand scientific proof of other people. But we feel the need to have someone confirm that I am not making a mistake because everyone is always telling us we are wrong and we are sick of hearing it and have started to believe it.
We are so proud of being intelligent and logical, but there are several mistakes in the history of science itself. No matter how logical you are you will always be wrong sometimes. It's inescapable and should be embraced. Even if we don't know why, we often find ourselves thinking, "I knew I shouldn't have done that, my instinct was telling me it's not a good idea". Even where instincts aren't involved emotions themselves tell us a lot. I remember several examples where a person made me feel bad, angry or sad over a very long period of time indicating that the way they were treating me was not acceptable or that they didn’t like me, but I chose to believe what other people said about the situation because conventional knowledge said that they were were not being unfair or liked me because they either treated me well sometimes/not treating me badly enough or they were related to me and hence couldn't not love me. And I believed it. Now that I know some of those people better and know better about what is fair and unfair I know my emotions back then were correct but what I chose to believe (knowledge) was wrong. Things would have been a lot easier and better for me had I trusted my emotions instead of other people.
It reminds me of the trilogy His Dark Materials (The Golden Compass if you don't know what I am talking about). I recently realised the whole concept of "which animal you think you are most like?" shows that we think we are logical and intelligent to the extent that we think we are above emotions and instincts and look down on them. In fact we don't think we are animals at all. Which is the biggest flaw in our thinking. I mean, which animal you think you are like? Can you be more like an animal then a human? And if not then maybe primates at least? Even the fact that you would rather be an otter, but being a chimp or a gorilla is an insult is absurd.
And then we assume that animals are not logical or intelligent. Or at least not as much as us. And on the one hand we undermine the depth of their emotions claiming they are not as compassionate as us. On the other we are actively trying to supress any sign of emotion that is not happiness which is basically the complete opposite of compassion. Lets forget about actually being happy and pretend to be happy instead.