People talk about what happens after marriage and before marriage but no body talks about the actual process of selecting a match for arranged marriage. I think this is really strange. Why?
There is so much you can talk about!!! The whole process is weird. You sit there in front of the prospective groom or bride's family like an artefact in the museum. People ask you sexist or redundant questions.
Like the one in the comic. I want someone who will respect my parents. Will you obey my parents? I am always amazed at such questions. My first reaction is to immediately reject the guys who ask them. Of course people ask them in a very round about way but what do they expect you to reply!? Of course you'll say yes! At least to the first question? Imagine this...
"Will you respect my parents?"
"No, I won't."
There is so much wrong with this question.
1. You already have an impression of girls and that impression is they don't respect their in laws.
2. The fact that you actually feel the need to say that any particular person should be respected shows that it's not important that other people are not. If you believe that everyone should be respected you don't waste time asking will you respect (fill in the relationship).
And about obeying your in laws. Who obeys anyone all the time. Expecting your spouse to obey your parents more than you do is kind of hypocrasy. And I do not believe that there is anyone who always obeys their parents or that everytime they don't they are wrong. And if anyone does I am sure they complain about it sometime. And if you don't complain I doubt that that generosity will extend to your spouse.
Finally why do people connect respect with obedience. No wonder people get angry when others disagree with them. If I refuse to do what you ask me to do you assume I think you are wrong or a fool. And you believe that means you don't deserve respect. Basically if you are wrong you don't deserve respect. And since no body can always be right it should not be associated with respectability.
Who should be respected should not be based on their age or status. Everyone including children deserves respect. And nobody should have to "obey" anyone.